Friday, August 31, 2007

I love being WRONG (this time)

Last WI: 216.8 (!!)/At Home WI: 217.0

FRIDAY

YEAH! I am so happy I was wrong! I went to WI yesterday and lost 1.8 lbs. That is wonderful for me. I will always be shooting for 2+ lbs but anytime I do 1.5 or more, I'm thrilled. I am ON MY WAY!

That said, I'm still not in any sort of new territory. I was as low as 211.8 in January so I'll REALLY feel successful once I pass that mark. But I'm moving right along and that's all I can do.

Last night - as per usual - I went out and overindulged. But I'm ok with that. I've got my gym bag packed and I'm headed there after work to get in 2.5 miles at least. I've got a plan and it's working. Boy does that feel good!

Thursday, August 30, 2007

Frustrated At Scale

Last WI: 218.6/At Home WI: 217.6 (BOO!)

THURSDAY

Ok. So I'm mad. I guess I'm usually lucky in that my home scale is usually a pretty accurate reflexion of how I've been eating/exercising etc. I usually go down when I have a good day and up when I have a bad. So when the scale misbehaves I'm pissed. WTF?

I left work yesterday about 4:30 and got home with 15 points left for the day. I had a small 4 pt sandwich cause I was starving and then settled down to digest before heading to the gym. I headed out about 7:00 and did my scheduled speed work on the treadmill which worked out to be about 1.5 miles in about 20 minutes and approx 300 calories. I thought about the fact that Thursday is my rest day and I'd only earned 3 APs with my speed work, so I decided to hop on the elliptical for a couple more points. Well, through great self-talk and some good music I managed to pump out 60 minutes on the machine for a total of about 900+ calories. So all in all, 80 minutes cardio and over 1200 calories burned. I counted 12 APs. I got home and was starving again so I made some low-fat pasta and a piece of chocolate for dessert. Ended the day right at my points target without eating any of my APs.

I totally expected the scale to be below 217 this morning. What do I get? Up 0.2 lbs. WHAT GIVES!?! I'm so frustrated as today is WI day and to stay on-track for my goal of losing 1.5+lbs per week I need to WI at 217 or lower.

Now all hope is not lost. I've had fluky weeks where my at home scale is higher than the WW scale. But not usually. Usually it's very close. Last week, for instance, at home showed exactly what WW said. So I've got a slim hope but not much. I'm so mad!

Now I know if I only get a 1lb loss that's not bad. I should be happy. But that .5 makes a big difference in the long run. And I totally kicked it up last night for this reason alone. If it doesn't work I don't know if I'll have the motivation again. :-(

I don't know. I guess we'll see what 5:00 brings. I've had my protein rich breakfast and now I'm just chuggin water until 1:00.

Here's hoping for the best.

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

Law and Order had Nothing on Me!

Last WI: 218.6/At Home WI: 217.4 (ok.)

WEDNESDAY

So yesterday became a crazy day after work. I left at about 5:00 and was driving home when I was alerted (nextel) by an officer I work with regularly (remember I'm criminal prosecutor). The officer had been in my office earlier that day to tell me about a series of armed robberies they were investigating. They had arrested a girl on them and could link her to 3 robbery's in the last 2 months. Two of them were very solid cases, one was iffy due to identification issues. They also had a lead on a girl they thought was the robber's driver. They had interviewed this driver a couple times and she had never admitted to anything or even admitted she know the girl we've arrested as the robber. Anyway, my officer calls me at about 5:30. I'm minutes from home and about 30 minutes away from work. He says he has the driver girl in the office and she's said she's willing to talk if I can come down and give her immunity so that she won't worry about being prosecuted. After discussing it further with the officer we agreed that we didn't have enough to charge this girl anyway, and she might be able to shore up the primary perp's involvement in our case that is weaker. Well, I give her my immunity speech - which incidentally I had to make up since I've never done this before - and she agrees to talk. She gives us good information on the crime that was a little weaker and actually links the perp to a fourth robbery that had as yet been unsolved. I got to sit in an adjacent room with several officers and watch through closed circuit video while she was interviewed by one of our detectives. Very cool. So all in all it was a fun night. Much cooler than the typical "paperwork" day I have. Court days and out of office days like yesterday are what makes this job fun. I also am building a really good rapport with my officers which is always a really big help.

Anyway, that escapade put me behind schedule for the night. I was going to try to go to the gym after work and then go out to Chaps with Erik for poker and dinner. By the time I got out of the police department, I had to race home so Erik and I could make it to poker on time. No gym. So my solution was that I would try to go after poker and dinner. I already had my gym bag packed and in the car. And the best part about this plan was that it would keep me from drinking any alcohol at the bar. The bad news was that because I had these grand plans, I justified ordering a burger and mac n cheese for dinner. Booo. It was so good though.

Well, I ended up winning the poker tournament and didn't get out of there until about 10:30 pm. BUT - true to my word, I took Erik home, didn't even go into the house, and headed straight for the gym. I did my 2.5 mile run, walked another .5 miles, and headed home for shower/bed. Erik was passed out when I got there, but I was still very proud of myself for following through with my commitment.

It's funny, I didn't know what to expect at the gym at 11:00 at night. Erik and I belong to one of those 24 hour gyms where you can go in at anytime with a swipe card. I got there and was shocked to see lots of cars in the parking lot. Turns out lots of guys like to lift weights late at night? Who knew. I think I was the only woman there, and I certainly had the cardio machines to myself. That reminds me - I definitely need to get on a strength training program soon. I've totally been slacking in that department. Despite all this motivation to get to the gym, I just don't have any desire to lift weights. I'm going to have to drudge up that motivation soon.

So this morning I was hoping to see 217 or lower, but am not totally surprised I didn't. Yesterday's WI seemed too good to be true anyway. I still have hope for an under 217 WI by tomorrow though. Today I will be perfect! There are no plans to go out tonight. I will be eating very good at work today and head straight to the gym for some speed work before making a healthy dinner and getting to bed early. I WILL see a good loss tomorrow!

Tuesday, August 28, 2007

Am I Becoming a Gym Rat

Last WI: 218.6/At Home WI: 217.0 (woo hoo!)

TUESDAY

So maybe I'm not actually becoming a gym rat - I think those people actually look forward to going to the gym. I'm not going to delude myself on that issue - I don't hate it, but it's definitely not the highlight of my day. But I am going much more frequently these days.

Yesterday I got off work later than I hoped - like 4:30 (my usual off time) and made it home a little after 5:00 and wanted to go to the gym. I was concerned that I wouldn't make it home in time for people to start showing up for our Monday night poker game that started at 7:00. Generally no one shows up till 6:45 or later, but on occasion as early as 6:30. And of course, after my work out I need to shower and change before I can be seen by civilized friends...

Anyway, I beeped Erik (love Nextel!) and he said he thought he could get out of work on time and be home by 6:00. Score! I headed off to the gym to see what kind of cardio damage I could do.

I did very well! I did a total of 60 minutes on the elliptical machines. My gym has two types of ellipticals, one type there are about 6 machines, one type there is only one machine. Of course the one that has only one machine is a favorite of most people so it's often occupied. So I jumped on the more common type and kicked out 30 minutes. Just as minute 29 was passing, they guy on the popular machine finished. So I finished out my 30 minutes on the first machine then kicked out another 30 on the other one. Woo Hoo - 60 minutes of good heart thumping cardio. The machines said I burned 960 or so calories, so I'm counting 9 APs. Not bad.

So far this month (which is almost over I know) I've done 91 APs worth of exercise. Definitely a banner month for me. That's over 9100 calories burned. Probably more like over 10,000 since I always low ball my APs. Awesome. Amazing how diet and exercise work. lol.

Well, I ended up getting home about 6:20. No one (but Erik) was there yet so I jumped in the shower. By the time I was cleaned up Holly had shown up and others were on their way. I didn't want to make a sandwich or cook dinner in front of guests, so for "dinner" I ended up just munching on the snacks Erik had put out. I did cut up some broccoli, but mostly my dinner consisted of beer, light tostitos, bacon cheddar dip, and broccoli. Very healthy, yes. But hey - it could be worse.

So this morning I had a gorgeous 217 on the scale. I truly hope that wasn't dehydration from the beer... I guess I'll find out tomorrow.

Due to some running around I missed breakfast this morning and ended up having lunch with Holly at Bugaboo Creek Steakhouse. Now I ordered my favorite non-steak item - the twin peaks chicken sandwich. I had a house salad with ranch to start and it came with fries but I only had like 3 or 4 of them. The sandwich is definitely high points though. I just can't figure out how much. It's a Cuban style bread, grilled chicken, Swiss and Monterrey jack cheese and spicy mustard. Probably a total of 8 or 9 inches long. I'm guessing at least 12 pts. Not sure.

Anyway - tonight I'm headed to the gym, probably with Erik, for 2.5 miles. Hopefully it'll go as well as Sunday's run!

Here's hoping!

Monday, August 27, 2007

Late Night McDonald's Run. :-(

Last WI: 218.6/At Home WI: 217.8

MONDAY

Well, the weekend was nice and "ok" food-wise. I left work Friday and got a good 2.5 mile run in. I say "good" because I did it. It was REALLY hard. I realized about mile 1.5 that my asthma was making life difficult. Which is really odd because I've had asthma for some 10 or so years, but it is not exercise induced so it only effects me when I'm exercising if it was already acting up before I began exercising. I guess I didn't notice it before I got on the treadmill because I really had to push by mile 2.5. My heart rate was over 175, and I was breathing really heavy even though I was going very slow for me. But I got through it and found my inhaler when I got home - all is good. Then I went out Friday night. Erik had Daniel so I was on my own. I went to YKnots for beer and poker.

I ate "ok" - had the pubrolls appitizer which is not necessarily a good choice, but was at least a small portion size. Then I had a bunch of beer. Boo. I did check myself before I left and was ok to drive (I have a pocket breathalizer) but I was there like 5 hours and should not have consumed that many empty calories via beer. Then the worst part - I made a late night McDonald's run. Booo!

Saturday I was a total bum. I didn't work out at all. I did go to the grocery store and stock the house with good choices. I also bought lots of fruit to restock my work fruit bowl. Then I went to play poker in the afternoon and evening, and was better. I had 4 beers in the afternoon but they were beck's premier light - 64 calories per beer. Only one point. That's mainly because it's reduced alcohol content. They're good but expensive. I can't afford to drink those all the time. Besides lots of places don't carry it.

Then Saturday night I went to a friends house for a home game. Did well, and just snacked a bit, but didn't really have dinner and got home at 2:00 am withOUT making a late night McDonald's run. So that was good.

Sunday I laid around all day except for the trip to the gym with Erik where I had an AMAZING 4 mile run. I mean it was crazy - my run from Friday and yesterday were like night and day. I started out slow to be sure I could get the whole 4 miles in, but about 2 miles in kicked it up a little because I was feeling so good. I got a little bored, but physically I felt great. After the 4 miles I totally felt like I could have done 2 more. I actually felt guilty because I didn't feel like I'd worked out that hard, even though 4 miles is more than I've done in months. Very weird. But I'll take it. Maybe I'm finally regaining my cardio endurance I had previously. That would be nice. One factor is that I totally hit the inhaler before I started to be sure I was cool asthma-wise. Maybe that's what I needed. It's a non-steroid inhaler so it shouldn't have "enhanced" me in the bad way - just helped clear my lungs. Anyway, whatever it was, I'm thankful for the good run. I hope they continue to go so well.

Today I woke up to see 217.8 on the scale which is the lowest I've seen since I recommitted at the beginning of the month. So that's good. I'm hoping to get the scale down to about 216 by Thursday, so I'll see 2lbs at WI. But frankly any WI under 217 will be good. So - work to do.

Plan for today - I'm going to try to get out of work early enough to hit the gym before our Monday poker night. I'm hosting it tonight and people will start to show up around 6:45 or so. So if I can get home before 5:00 I should be able to get some time in at the gym. Even though I feel fine from my run yesterday I'm going to give running a break since today's technically a "rest" day and just do some elliptical. I figure I traded Saturday for my rest day since I was a slacker then. Hopefully this plan will work. Barring no craziness at work...

Friday, August 24, 2007

Back Under 220!

Last WI: 218.6/At Home WI: 219.4

FRIDAY

Well, yesterday was a crazy day. I got up, went to work with my kitten in a cage, had someone in my office babysit while I went to court, went to the vet, went home to drop off the kitty, went to Atlanta for my interview, went to the doctor for my 3 month shot (birth control), went to my WI back in my town, picked up dinner at McDonald's (I know, I know) then finally made it home about 5:30, exhausted. I drove over 100 miles covering all my errands. But I'm pleased it's all done. And I lost 1.6 lbs at WI! Not the 2 lbs that was my goal, but I'm never going to complain about a loss, especially one over 1 lb.

So last night Erik got back in town from FL and he had purchased tickets for us to go to a play his friend from work was starring in. I was exhausted and actually he was too, but about 7:00 we trekked over to Newnan to watch his friend in One Flew Over the Cuckoo's nest. I haven't ever seen the movie or the play before but it was ok. Erik's friend was good, but some of the rest of the cast sucked. But hey it was community theatre after all.

We got home about 11:00 and watched some recorded episodes of Rock of Love (total guilty pleasure) and crashed out a little after midnight. I did have a couple beers after we got home, and McDonald's for dinner last night - thus the increase on the scale. But today we're back on track. I allow myself a little indulgence on Thursdays, but today I'm headed back to the gym. I also think I'm going to stay in tonight as Erik has Daniel and I'd love to kick the week off to a good start weight-wise.

Oh - the interview went well yesterday. I really liked the guy I met with. It was just a "screening" interview though so if I'm lucky I'll have another round coming up. I don't want to jinx it but I feel pretty good I at least made it to the next round. Now to decide if I really want this job should I get it...

Wednesday, August 22, 2007

This and That

Last WI: 220.2/At Home WI: 218.2 (yeah!)

WEDNESDAY

Well the hard work is paying off! I ended up staying up last until 1:00 am watching old recordings and the newest America's Got Talent. I LOVE the ventriloquist. I'm so glad he won even though that's such a non-traditional talent. I think he was amazing. And so humble!

Anyway, this morning dawned with a beautiful number on the scale. I'm making good progress and have a hope of getting my 2+ lb loss tomorrow. *crossing fingers* Today I had a balance bar for breakfast (4pts) a bag of popcorn (6pts) an Orange (1pt) and subway for lunch (10pts). Which leaves me with just 7 points left for the day, but that's ok. I pulled out a chicken breast last night for dinner and plan to hit the gym right after work. I'm shooting for at least 6 APs but my scheduled run is only 20 minutes (approx 4 APs) so I'll need to do some elliptical or bike work to get my goal. We'll see. Ideally I need to see somewhere in the 217's tomorrow to be comfortable expecting a 2 lb loss at WI. I think I can do it though. Lots of water today!

I never did talk to Erik last night - but I talked to him twice today so far. As suspected he was at the casino last night until late - almost 2 AM. But he said he's made up his losses and is actually showing a little profit from his poker playing this week. He comes home tomorrow, so I'm looking forward to that. I need to clean up the house tonight though - I've been slacking on that front.

So I have a little bit of exciting news to tell - I have a job interview tomorrow. Currently I'm a prosecutor in a county about 20 miles south of Atlanta, and as much as I like my job, the pay sucks. I've been here for almost 3 years and have gotten some great trial experience, but I'm looking to move up, and professionally now is the time. Tomorrow I'm doing a "screening" interview with a large firm in downtown Atlanta. I guess if I get by this interview, they'll call me back for a more intensive one - this one is with only one partner for about 30 minutes.

Frankly if they offered me the job I don't know what I'd do. I left a big firm job to be here 3 years ago because I didn't like the work. Now I'm considering going back for the money. Of course the responsibility would be different now that I have more experience, and the pay would be more than double my current salary, but I don't know if I'd be happy. I really don't. But I'm going into the interview with an open mind and am planning on convincing the partner that I really want the job so at least I have a shot at it. I would love to get an offer and have the choice to make. Another issue with my current job is that I work for an elected official. So long as he is in office I know my job is safe because he loves me. But he's up for re-election next year and the guy that's running against him is a total slim-ball. If the new guy gets elected I would never work for him, even if he wanted me to - which I don't know that he would. I would have to find a new job as of January '08. So - another consideration. I don't know my boss's odds in the election, but I would hate to be put in the position of having to find a new job in a short amount of time.

Anyway - we'll see how it goes. The interview is at 2:00 pm. I have court first thing in the morning, then I have a vet appointment for my new kitten, then I'm headed up to Atlanta for the interview then back down here for weigh in. I probably won't be able to post until after WI, so I'll hope for the best!

Oh - I've noticed that I've acquired a few readers. Having even one reader is so exciting to me. I read a lot of other blogs and comment occasionally. If my any of my few readers are so inclined, I'd love to hear from you in a comment. Just introduce yourself if you feel like it. I'm having fun with this blog thing and would love to hear feedback from others. Thanks!

Tuesday, August 21, 2007

Ran 3 miles!

Update: TUESDAY

Today was a good day. I left work early as I had to pick up my county car that was being maintenanced. Got home about 4:00 and was very sleepy - didn't get enough sleep last night with the late night poker game. So, I told myself I could nap if I got up and went to the gym after. Plan completed! I napped till about 6:00 then went to the gym and ran 3 miles. For some reason running that far has been difficult for me lately so I was very happy to complete it. I had 2.5 on the schedule so I was pleased to do a bit more. Tomorrow I've got a 20 minute tempo run on tap. So, it's 10:00 pm. I've eaten exactly my target points today, earned 6 APs which I haven't eaten and don't plan to. Here's hoping that tomorrow shows a drop on the scale. I'm doing well, I just have to keep it up!

Erik called from Ft. Lauderdale last night from the Hard Rock casino. He was playing poker and not doing very well. It was 1:00. lol. I hope he did better after we talked. We played phone tag all day today so far, so I haven't talked to him.

Anyway, I'm feeling good, watching some TiVo, and plan to be asleep before midnight. Here's to a good day tomorrow!

Relationship Issues

Last WI: 220.2/At Home WI: 218.8

TUESDAY

Yesterday was a very good day. I left work early and hit the gym. Unfortunately that didn't go as planned. I went to Target last week and bought some new running gear including a few new sports bras and a new runners top that is a fitted, racer top (don't know how else to describe it). I decided to try the new top yesterday. Usually I just run with a sports bra and t-shirt. Well, it was snug but not overly tight heading to the gym and all was going well until I started running. Walking was fine, but running made the darn thing ride up horribly. Now, I'm one of those people who are very curvy and when I lose weight I lose it everywhere. Similarly when I gain weight I gain it everywhere so my hips and busts are always bigger than my waist. Anyway, bottom line, my hips were too big and the shirt rode up to just below my boobs - not a pretty sight. I found myself running while holding my shirt down. Didn't work. So I walked, which didn't seem to disturb the situation quite so bad. I ended up walking about 1.5 miles, burning just over 200 calories and earning just 2 APs. I had planned and hoped for more, but it was something.

Technically Monday is supposed to be a rest day but since I didn't work out as planned on Friday or Sunday I was trying to do make up work. Oh well. Today is another day and it's back to the T-shirt - at least until the shirt is not quite so snug.

After the work out I made a very healthy dinner of chicken, whole wheat pasta and tomato's with basil and garlic. I don't cook often, but this was a great old standby from my original WW days. I also made some cooked broccoli for veggies. All in all dinner was only 9 points which left me with 6 points for the day not counting my 2 APs. I packed up and headed to the poker game.

And.....

ATE NOTHING. Oh yes. I decided before I got there that I would bring some diet coke and diet mountain dew to drink hoping to be able to avoid the beer but if there was snacks - like chips and salsa - I'd spend a few of my remaining points on them. Well, all they had was pizza from a local joint. Now, I've had this pizza before and it's ok, but not phenomenal and I've guesstimated the points at 5 per slice. I had 6 left for the day and just didn't feel like one slice would satisfy me and I'd end up eating too much. So I said no to that to, promising myself that if I wanted something when I got home, I could use my points there.

Poker lasted till midnight, I got home, chugged some water, and decided that a day under points would do me good! So I went to bed with 6 points and 2 APs to spare. Woo Hoo! This totally doesn't seem like such a big deal as I write it but for me it's a HUGE victory. I've had such a hard time staying in points that actually staying under is nearly inconceivable.

Today I've had my balance bar for breakfast (4pts) and am planning another low point day with 6-10 APs earned at the gym. I'm still sort of making up for the weekend and realistically need to see 217.6 or lower on my home scale Thursday morning to have any hope for a 2+ lb loss this week. I've got two days. And Erik's out of town so no distractions. Tonight's plan is to go to the gym, and have a healthy dinner - no going out!

So - all that WW stuff out of the way, I want to talk about some personal issues. Erik and I. I've been dating Erik for 2 years and 2 months now. When we started dating he had been separated from his now-ex-wife for about 7 months, though the divorce wasn't final until 6 months into our relationship (custody issues). He's also been married once before that, so he's been divorced twice. And has a 4 year old son. Not someone I would have initially thought I would ever date. But I met him through friends and didn't learn all the back story right away. And, it turns out, you can't always pick who you fall in love with.

Anyway, early on in our relationship I made it clear to him what I wanted eventually - a husband and children. Now Erik is definitely not one to talk about his feelings much or open up often, but on this issue I made things perfectly clear and made him be perfectly clear with me that he wanted those things too. I didn't want to get 2 years in and learn that he didn't want to get married again, or that he didn't want anymore kids. He assured me, repeatedly, that it wouldn't be an issues. He wanted the same things - but wanted to take things slowly. Well, I had no problem with that as I was not at all ready to have kids yet, so I could hold out on the getting married thing for a bit. So here we are 2+ years later and we're still not engaged. Now - my theory on couples is that no one should get in engaged in less than 1 year. Just my opinion, but I think you need to go through a year to really learn about a person. That said, I've always felt that if a relationship goes into 3 or more years with out an engagement, there's a problem.

Well, the good news is I know what our problem is - or at least I hope so. When I met Erik, as I said, he was going through a divorce. Unfortunately in that divorce there was a lot of debt that they, in all fairness, divided equally. But they had started a business together that failed, and in starting it had taken out additional mortgages and loans. So, coming out of the marriage Erik had a lot of debt. In early 2006, Erik's "friend" (I put it in quotes because I don't think he's a friend of Erik) Charlie, talked him into "investing" in a subdivision Charlie was building. Basically he got Erik to buy a lot of land relatively cheap and agree to build a new house, with the plans to sell it. Charlie convinced Erik that he could build this monstrous house for under 400K and then sell it for 500K plus. Now, Erik and I had been dating less than a year now and weren't even living together and I didn't have enough influence to persuade him that this "get rich quick scheme" was likely not all it was cracked up to be. Erik felt it was his opportunity to make enough to pay off the debt from his last marriage. I argued that it could easily make thing worse. I tried my best, but against all of my pleadings, he agreed to build the house. Erik has perfect credit and a really good job, so he had no problem getting another loan to build a new house - even though he had little to no equity in his current one.

Well, the new house was built and finished in August of 2006. Back in March of 2006 Erik had placed his old house on the market with the theory that perhaps we could live in the new house for 2 years to avoid taxes on a sale (another misunderstanding he had - you don't avoid taxes, you just roll over your profits to another house - but he again didn't listen to me). Anyway, the "old" house was put on the market initially at just under 300K. He has lived there since 1999 and bought it for under 200K but has refinanced it so many times he owes nearly 300K. Another disappointing fact.

So, 2006 came and went and no one made an acceptable offer on the "old" house. By this time, Erik was paying a mortgage on a 300K house and a 400K house. Now I said Erik has a "good" job. But not that good, by any means. He ended up taking out an additional 100K line of credit on the "new" house based upon an obscene appraisal and was paying mortgages out of borrowed money. So - the new house was put on the market as well with the theory that we've got to sell one or the other - ideally both.

Now, it's been nearly a year and neither house has sold. Eventually the money is going to run out. I'm not sure when, he keeps saying "oh a couple more months is all I got" but then a couple months go by and he's still pluggin along. Unfortunately, even bankruptcy is not a viable option right now because in his job he has a "secret" clearance because he works with the government a lot. He's convinced that if he files bankruptcy he'll lose his secret clearance and his job. So he's been applying for other jobs but so far that has gone the way of the house sales - no luck.

Anyway - back to our relationship. We've talked about marriage repeatedly and I've indicated that I think we've waited long enough. But it always comes back to the finances. He, understandably, doesn't want to propose until he's cash-flow positive. And I appreciate that. I frankly don't want to marry into all of that debt anyway, but I sure wish he would resolve it sooner rather than later. I don't know if there will be any good resolution right now, but I do know things are getting worse, not better.

So here I am, in a relationship with a great guy who has some major financial problems. He has promised me that, once we do get married, I am authorized to take over all the finances, as I am a bit more risk-averse than him and will, hopefully, do a better job for our future. But meanwhile, I'm in "limbo" and have no idea when I'm getting engaged. Frustrating to say the least.

Now, the good news is that I'm still not at all ready to get pregnant, though I would like to in the next 3-4 years. But in reality, I don't need to be married until we decide to have kids. That said, if we pass 3 years without a proposal, I'm going to be concerned there is more behind this than finances. Right now I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt. He assures me it's not commitment issues, or relationship issues, that he loves me and wants to have a family with me. But until there's a ring on my finger, I'm not sure I'll ever completely believe him.

Anyway he's out of town this week so it's got me thinking about us, and our future. I hope that he can resolve the finances, in some way - good or bad - soon. Problems like this don't go away - they just get worse.

Monday, August 20, 2007

Weekend in South Carolina

Last WI: 220.2/At Home WI: 219.8

MONDAY

Well this weekend was fun but not wonderful WW-wise. Friday night I went out with Erik to Y-knots and had chicken nachos for dinner. Not a great choice but believe it or not there are worse. I also had a few beers, but was driving so didn't go overboard there.

Saturday we got up at 8:00 to pick up two 17 year old boys - Shane and Ryan. Shane is the son of one of Erik's best friends who is stationed in Iraq right now. Ryan is a classmate of Shane. Both are baseball players and there was an event in South Carolina this weekend they wanted to go to but couldn't get a ride. Erik's friend asked if we would take them and we agreed. So, Saturday we spent the day on the road. I was good and made myself a tuna sandwich for breakfast, knowing we were meeting them at Burger King and knowing I'd make a very bad choice there for breakfast. Lunch we stopped at a wing place, so I didn't eat great, but didn't over-indulge. For dinner we ate at the resort we were staying at. I had a really bad steak, but it was small and not fatty at all, so not too bad, and a couple beers. The good news is that before we went to dinner I convinced Erik to hit the hotel gym with me and earn some APs. I managed just over 2 miles before calling it quits when the treadmill died on me.

Sunday we took the boys by McDonald's on the way to the ball park, but I talked Erik into dropping them off and getting subway for us - so that was a victory. It was a little late, so it was lunch and we had no breakfast. Then we went and watched they boys play for a few hours and I got some much needed sun - a bit too much but the burn wasn't bad. We hit the road about 5:00 stopping at a gas station for drinks/snacks. I munched on some chips (bad idea!) and we stoped for dinner about 7:00 where I split some pizza and breadsticks with Erik. Over all not a horrible day but definitely could have been better. We got home about 11:00 last night after dropping the boys off and crashed out immediately.

Erik left this morning for a week in Ft. Lauderdale for a conference (lucky boy!) so I'm single for the week. I'm going to try to use that to my advantage and get LOTS of exercise in and stay home. We'll see how my resolve lasts as the week goes on. Of course that doesn't apply to tonight because it's Monday and our weekly poker game is tonight. Holly is hosting and I doubt I'll have time after work to make it to the gym before heading over there at 7:00. So, the plan is to eat a really low points day and eat dinner before I go over there and NOT drink beer while I'm there. Again - we'll see how my resolve does.

So far today I've had a balance bar for breakfast (4pts) and some 94% ff popcorn (2pts). I just about to head out for lunch which will probably be subway again. I might try for just a turkey sub (5pts) no chips and a drink. That would do well toward my goal of a low point day. It's a plan - now to execute!

Friday, August 17, 2007

I Lost 2.2lbs!

Last WI: 220.2/At Home WI: 218.4 (dehydration most likely)

FRIDAY

Well, yesterday was good. I ended up losing 2.2 lbs at WI. I was pleased but hate to admit I really had hoped to see less than 220 on the scale, seeing as how I saw 219 at home. But I can't complain. My goal was 2+ lbs and I met it. Now - for another week of it.

After WI I was really bad, as usual and picked up a horribly high point dinner - wings and fried mushrooms from our local wings and things. Then Erik and I went out for drinks and poker at Y-knots. I ended up drinking way too much (Mich Ultra) but came in 3rd at poker. So this morning I was totally dehydrated, which probably accounts for the drop in the scale even though I went WAY over in points yesterday.

Today I woke up tired and thirsty. I almost called into work this morning, but finally sucked it up since I knew it'd be a short day regardless. I got there a little after 9:00 and most of the office left at 11:30 for a going away lunch for Kim, one of our secretaries. I'm very sad Kim's leaving she was one of the coolest women, and was really good at handling some of our more difficult defense attorneys. But she got a job that moves her along professionally so I can't blame her and I wish her the best.

After lunch I went to give blood. I'm 0 Negative so I get called like clockwork every 2 months. So I went in and when I was going to the intake they asked me if I would be willing to give my red blood cells instead. Essentially that consists of them hooking you up to a machine that takes a pint of blood, spins out the red blood cells, and then gives you back the rest - plazma, platelets, white blood cells, etc. Then it does it again. They get two "units" of blood from you and I guess the red blood cells are particularly valuable. Anyway, I agreed, and boy did it wipe me out. I NEVER have effects from giving blood. I don't even feel faint. But this one had me feeling tingly and cold during and tired afterwards. So I came home and took a nap. I'm not even going to try the low intensity work out I had planned for the evening.

So tonight it's Erik's turn to drink, which is great because I definitely need the break. It's funny I don't get drunk all that often anymore, but when I do the next morning I just feel guilty. Even if nothing happened. I feel hung over of course, but also guilty, like I shouldn't be doing this anymore - to my body - to my mind - anything. I would love to say I'll resolve not to drink anymore but that just won't happen. I know better. Hopefully the frequency will continue to deminish, however.

Tomorrow morning we're getting up really early to drive to South Carolina for the night. Erik has a friend in the military that is currently in Iraq. Well his friend has kids that are in baseball and have this camp they need to go to this weekend. His wife can't take them, so Erik agreed that we would. So we're escorting two teen agers to Myrtle Beach area tomorrow through Sunday. The good news is that his friend, who is way too appreciative, has put us up at a resort, not just a hotel but a resort - so they definitely have a fitness center -already checked - and I WILL be using it tomorrow and Sunday. It's a promise it's a plan. It will happen.

So that's about it. Today I've already used all my points between a craving filled breakfast, fancy lunch, and the nutter butters and juice they give you at the blood drive. So I need to figure out a low point dinner so I don't have to use all my flex points for the week today.

Here's too a good weekend!

Thursday, August 16, 2007

WI Day and I'm Excited?!?

Last WI: 222.4/At Home WI: 219.4! (YEAH!)

THURSDAY

Well, it's amazing what happens when you do the right thing. Yeah - it's funny - diet and exercise work!

So today is the culmination of my first real week OP. I mean kicking butt. Granted - as you can see below, there were a few days that I went over, slipped, splurged, or otherwise didn't make the perfect choice. But for me, this week rocked. I exercised 5 times, earned 34 APs, stayed within my range or close to it most days. Oh what would happen if I really was perfect? Anyway - the loss isn't official till WI at 5:00 but I'm totally expecting the 2+lb loss I was hoping for. On my way to the bridesmaid dress!

So yesterday I bailed at work about 3:30, headed home and was really tired for some reason so I laid down and rested/read my book until about 5:45. Then I got my booty up and went to the gym. Yesterday was a "speed work" day so I warmed up doing a 1/2 mile run at 5.5 mph, then walked for .2 mile, then ran .25 miles at 6.4, walked .2, ran .25 at 6.5, walked .2, ran .25 at 6.4, walked .2, then finished up with a run of .5 at 5.5, and another short walk after that. Over all I did just over 2.2 miles in 30 minutes, but got some good "speed work" in there. That was my 3 x 400 day on the calendar. Then I did 30 minutes on the bike for a total of about 650 calories burned and 6 APs

When I got home, I discovered that Erik and our house guest had ordered (and ate) pizza, which is fine with me. I had told Erik I needed to eat healthy so he wisely ate without me. It was perfect. And after my good work out, and knowing WI was today, I wasn't even tempted by the leftover pizza. I had a bowl of whole grain pasta with chicken flavoring (Pasta sides by Lipton) and some steamed spinach and a handful of cashews for protein. All in all an 11 pt meal - exactly what I had left for the day, not even dipping into the APs. WOO HOO! So as you can see above, the scale was very friendly this morning.

Today's plan: Big breakfast (done - chick-fil-a burrito and some chips); no lunch; chug water (and my requisite diet coke) until about 1:00 pm; then "fast" until WI at 5:00. I have an appointment at work at 2:00 out of the office so I plan to leave from there after that and hit WalMart before WI. I need a new couple of sports bras. I used to have two that fit, but have somehow lost one. Now that I'm going to the gym 5 days a week, I have the choice of doing laundry every day or wearing a sweaty smelly bra some days. I've done both this week, but want to stop. So - new bra for me, along with some other odds and ends for the house. I should be able to get the WalMart trip in, WI and still get to the gym before Erik gets home. We usually go out on Thursday -it's my night to drink and he drives, so we'll probably leave the house around 7:00 or 7:30.

As for exercise, today is supposed to be a "rest" day on the schedule, but tomorrow I'm planning on giving blood at a local blood drive that runs 9:00-2:00. They usually run an afternoon drive - like 1:00-7:00 but for some reason this time they're doing it early, which really screws me. I had planned on running 2 miles on Friday but obviously cannot do so after giving blood. So my choices are get up early and run (yeah right!) or switch my "rest" day to Friday. I choose the latter. Especially since we're going out tonight and I'll likely be drinking. So - I will be squeezing in a work out today and "resting" tomorrow.

Over all my outlook is really good right now. I keep trying to "forget" that I was at under 213 in April of this year and if I hadn't let it all slip I'd be much closer to goal right now. That's destructive thinking though. All I can work on is today and tomorrow. I can't change last month. I CAN learn from it though, and hopefully I will.

I was reading another blog today by Jessifer, that talked about date related weight loss goals and how she feels they're dangerous. I agree with her logic that people who say "I must lose 40 lbs in 3 months" are likely to fail and thus be more discouraged than encouraged. I think, however, there is a constructive way to use a date related goal as motivation, as I am. I have 107 days until Holly's wedding. I want to be "as low as possible" on that date. I'm not saying I need to be 190lbs, or even 200lbs. but I would like to do as well as I can between now and then. And every lb I lose between now and then is one less lb I have to squeeze into that dress. "IDEALLY" I'll be under 200. That is my "HOPE" and I guess you would say "GOAL" but the over-arching thought is do as much as I can between now and then. Even 10lbs lost will make me look better in that dress. 20lbs? All the better. Etc., etc. So here's to 107 days of doing the best I can.

Here's a secret though - I'm not quitting after December 1st. That's really just an interim goal. I have a long way to go - i.e. my LIFETIME - so that's just the first step.

Wednesday, August 15, 2007

Poker and Alcohol - Required Together!

Last WI: 222.4/At Home WI: 220.0 (hope that's not a fluke!)

WEDNESDAY

Well, yesterday was perfect until the evening...again. I am totally weak at night even after a perfect OP day! I left work and went to the gym - ran 2 miles, then did the elliptical for a total of 6 APs. Not the 10 I'd hoped for, but my energy was just low so I took what I could get. I got home and had 9 points left for the day plus the 6 APs I'd earned. Erik had a friend coming into town from Michigan that he went to college with. His friend, Kevin, would be staying with us for two days. The tentative plan was for him to get in about 5:30 or 6:00 and we'd go to dinner. A little after 6:00 no boys and I'm starving, so I have a bowl of chicken noodle soup to tide me over (3pts). That still leaves me a good 12 points for dinner - totally doable with good choices. The boys finally get there about 7:00 and Erik decides he wants to go play poker.

Boooo!

We play at a restaurant called chaps, which I can totally eat ok at, but have the hardest times not drinking - particularly when playing poker. So we get there, we order, I make a good choice and order diet coke with my sandwich and salad - total of 14 points approx. Then about an hour into the poker game, I'm irritated by the people at my table and order a beer...then another. And you know where it goes from there. I ended the day with a total of 4 beers - and 8 unnecessary points. All in all I was 10 pts over for the day after eating my APs. Not horrible, but I didn't have them to spare after my Monday night splurge. I should NOT be splurging two nights in a row when I really need to post a good loss this week! Grrrr. The good news is that the scale was very friendly this morning - to the point that I think it was wrong but I was too scared to weigh again. I want so much to believe it's right. So I'm taking it and running with it and hoping to have my perfect day today. It's the day before WI and I have no choice, right?

The good news is that I've done TONS of exercise this week. Since WI I've earned 28 APs and plan for another 6 or so today. That is huge for me, so I'm hoping that will cover for the slips of the week.

Today I've had 7 pts so far for breakfast and snack. I havent figured out lunch yet as I'm trying to sneak out of work early so I may just have a bowl of soup I have and disappear around 2:00 or so - we'll see. Either way I am going back to the gym today. And at least I know I won't be tempted by alcohol tonight - Erik has Daniel and our house guest, so it's definitely a night it with the boys. I WILL make a good dinner for me, even if I have to be unsocial. Ideally I can eat just my target points and "bank" the APs for WI tomorrow. That's the plan man!

Tuesday, August 14, 2007

Slight Binge with Wine and Beer.

Last WI: 222.4/At Home WI: 221.4 (to be expected)

Well, I didn't follow my plan yesterday. :-( I didn't make it to the gym for weight training after work as I got delayed a bit and had people showing up at the house at 6:30. I did make a good dinner consisting of a tuna sandwich and some light chips. I had 10 points left and used them all. I prepared the "snacks" for our guests and included some very good choices for me - broccoli with light dip and "light" tostitos (fat free) with salsa.

Unfortunately I also opened a bottle of wine. And by the end of the night had drank it all. :-* Plus two beers. :-( Plus snacked on the good food and the bad (spinach dip and cashews). All in all the day was great till the evening and my splurge wasn't totally over the top, like I've done in the past. But I'm still disappointed with myself. Today I need to get it back under control.

The good news is I won our poker game last night! :-) Woo hoo! It's been a while since I've posted a win and it felt good. The money isn't bad either. Now - to just learn to play poker withOUT alcohol...

So, I should be able to sneak out of work early today. I'm definitely going to the gym. I plan to run 3 miles, and hopefully kick in some elliptical or weight training to get in 10 APs. That's definitely on the high end but it helps after a splurge day to have a great AP day - sort of a la Wendie Plan.

Another factor is that Erik's highschool friend Kevin, whom I've never met, is coming in tonight to stay a couple days with us. I think he's moving to this area and needs a place to crash for a couple nights. Hopefully that won't mix up the food issues too much. I NEED to post a good loss this week for motivational reasons as well as the bridesmaid countdown. As of today I'm down about 1 lb. BUT I totally plan to kick that to over 2 by Thursday with today's extreme work out and another planned for tomorrow. I CAN do it. I haven't seen a 2 lb loss in AGES. Here we go!

Monday, August 13, 2007

Good Weekend Considering...

Last WI: 222.4/At Home WI: 220.2 (woo hoo!)

MONDAY

I had a great weekend with only a few slips. Friday I executed my plan FLAWLESSLY! I had a salad for lunch with the Bride. I then went to the gym after work and ran 2 miles, walked 0.5 miles, and did some time on the elliptical for a total of over 600 calories burned (6 APs!). Then, ... GET THIS... I STAYED HOME friday night. Wow. Shocker. lol. The Bride invited me to go out for a movie with her and the roomie, and I declined. I was pooped after my work out and had a great dinner consisting of a tuna sandwich and some veggies. Great day.

Saturday I woke up to 220.4 on the scale, but it was the "slip day". Though not horrible at all. I started it off with a balance bar for breakfast (4pts) and then went to the gym and did a GREAT 3 mile run - fastest I've done in a long while, though not at all my best time. I then went to the grocery store and spent way too much stocking up on good food for the week. After that, the slip. I was supposed to go to the mall of Georgia with the Bride, but she got caught up doing bride stuff with her mom and didn't get done in time. So last minute I decided to go play poker at Three Dollar. Well, that was fine - I ate before I went and "allotted" myself 3-4 beers worth of points. Well, 3 hours and 5 beers later, a group of us decide to move the party to the Bride's house, and hang some more. Well, 4 hours, 4 slices of pizza and 5 MORE beers later, I'm headed home. Not horrible, but definitely not what I had planned initially for the evening. I had a good time though and didn't use ALL of my flex points in one day. lol. I still had 5 left going into Sunday.

Then Sunday - the perfect day. :-) Morning scale hopping showed 222.2 - to be expected after the "slip" Saturday, but I woke up to Erik and Daniel playing, and we went to church. I drove separately and had a balance bar on the way so I could go straight to the gym after church. I had a real tough run on Saturday so I opted to let my legs heal a bit and do the elliptical. 64 minutes and 1000 calories burned later, I was pooped. Went home, had a great lunch of steamed shrimp, rice and Green beans, then napped until 3:00. Headed to a friends house for a poker tournament and picked up Subway on the way for when I got hungry a couple hours in. All in all, I ate exactly my target points (28), earned 10 APs, but didn't eat a single one. Fabulous day.

So all in all it was a good weekend for me. Of late I've not counted points, splurged Thursday Friday and Saturday and had to try to make up for it on a hung over Sunday. Not this time. Only one "splurge" and it was controlled. Felt great on Sunday and had a great day then too. I'm very pleased, and hope to repeat this feat repeatedly. lol.

So today - I saw the scale down 2lbs, I think this could be a great week! 3 days will WI and I'm totally hoping for a 2+lb loss. I CAN do it. I had a turkey sandwich for breakfast with fresh tomato (5pts), 2 plums for a snack this morning (1pt) and am still figuring out lunch. The scary risk is tonight. We have our Monday poker league and we're hosting it at my house tonight. I generally like to have a beer or two with Monday poker, and I'll be providing some yummy (read fattening) snacks for the crew. So, the plan is this. I've got 22 pts remaining for the day. If I use 10 or so for lunch (subway anyone?) and get in some weight training after work (2APs) that leaves 14 for tonight. I'll have a filling dinner of something with lots of veggies, and try to save myself 4-6 pts for beer/snacks. I really should just avoid the beer. 2-3 beers isn't enough to even get me buzzed (sickly high tolerance) so it's really wasted calories. I wonder how strong my will power is. I'm going to have to think on it. The good thing is I've got some fresh broccoli and light dip I can put out that I love, so I'll have a healthy snack to choose. It's the beer that tempts me... Oh the life of an alcoholic.

Well, that's about it. I've got 110 days till the bridesmaid dress. I would LOVE to be in Onederland for the wedding. Here's hoping!

Friday, August 10, 2007

113 Days Till Bridesmaid Dress

Last WI: 222.4/At Home WI: 222.8

FRIDAY

Well, I lost 0.4 on my first week "back on the wagon". But Frankel, I've sort of only had one foot on the wagon. Last week there wasn't a single day I didn't go over my points and into flex. I did exercise a bunch but ate every one of those AP's. That's not the way to work this program. I know this. Why can't I make myself do it right? I always do really good during the day at work, and then get a craving for something on the way home and kill the whole day with taco bell or McDonald's. I know my weakness, now I need to fix it.

Yesterday I had a minor victory. I weighed in at 5:30 and, as usual after WI, splurged for dinner - taco bell again (see a pattern?). But then I did make the good choice NOT to go out drinking like I usually do on Thursday night. Granted, my DD couldn't make it, so I would not have been able to drink much anyway, but I chose to stay home regardless. The bad part is that I had "planned" to go the gym instead, but didn't. :-(

Well, I looked at a calendar today and discovered I have 113 days until my BF's wedding. 113 days till I have to squeeze into a bridesmaid dress. And hopefully look good! My DBF is a groomsman, so this will make for a great opportunity for some "prom" type pictures of us. We'll both be super dressed up.

I've decided my new mantra is "every calorie I deny between now and then is one less calorie in my body at the wedding". Ok, so it doesn't make a whole lot of sense, but in general, every smart choice I make is one step closer to being where I want to be.

I talked to the bride today and she said that one of the other bridesmaids is on a diet as well - she's smaller than me but not by much - and had already lost 5 lbs. Well well well. Do we have a friendly competition going on here? I think SO. I can totally do better than that. :-) So, I've only lost 0.4 so far, but this can be a MONSTER week. I feel it.

Erik has Daniel this weekend so I'm thinking about just staying home tonight and tomorrow night. I have a date with the Bride tomorrow to go to the mall of Georgia to see Taylor Swift sing/perform. I also have a poker tournament on Sunday evening that Erik and I are going to. Other than that - no plans for the weekend. So here they are.....RUN RUN RUN. That's right. Tonight I'm going to try to do 3 miles on the TM. Tomorrow 2 or more, and Sunday 2 or more. That will be a minimum of 7 miles for the weekend and almost 1300 calories burned. Definitely a start. I'm going to try to eat only my target points, plus any AP's for the weekend. I need a good week to "jump start" this little competition. I have 16 more WI's before the wedding. I'd LOVE to average 2lbs per, but would honestly be happy if I lost 20 lbs between now and then.

I CAN DO IT!

So - baby steps. Today - I'm at work now. The Bride is calling me shortly to meet her and the groom for lunch and to go by the bridal shop. I WILL order a salad. After work I'm going to the gym. Then dinner will be a healthy choice at home.

That's the plan. NOW for the EXECUTION.

Wednesday, August 8, 2007

Back Again

WEDNESDAY

Last WI: 222.8 (yep - that bad)/At Home WI: 221.8

Well, I didn't get back into it like I'd hoped in July. So now we're in August, and I'm trying again. I have all new incentive though. Last week Holly, my best friend locally, invited me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding. Catch is - wedding is December 1. This is great news and horrible news. Great news because it will be so fun, and Holly and her DBF Dana are perfect for each other. Horrible because her wedding is on the day my 7 day cruise with Erik was scheduled to begin. I called Holland America, though, and they've fully refunded my money. I won't do so well on the plan tickets, though. We'll have to pay about $50 each to change them, but I'd used sky-miles in the first place, so it could be worse.

So - I've got 16 and 1/2 weeks to be a hot bridesmaid. Ok - so I know that I won't be the "hot" bridesmaid in just that time, but I can make a lot of progress between now and then. I started last Thursday and mapped out 16 weeks of running culminating with a half marathon on Thanksgiving. So far so good. Last week I ran 2 miles on Thursday, 2 miles on Friday, 2.5 miles on Saturday and yesterday I ran 3. :-) Not bad for my first week back on track.

I had a bit of a slip from the wagon yesterday when I gave into a craving for Taco Bell for dinner. Very bad. But I recovered and went to the gym with Erik when he got home and did the 3 miles mentioned above. I was rewarded this morning on the scale - it'd been showing higher numbers since the weekend.

Ideally I can lose 2 lbs at WI tomorrow, but, as usual, any loss will be greatly appreciated. I lost a lot of ground the last few months, and its frustrating, but the only thing to do is to get back on the wagon and keep plugging. This is a life long journey and I've gotta take it just one day at a time.

Here's to a good day!

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